Archive for the ‘Self-Help’ Category
by Chris on Dec 6th, 2011
Die subtitel van Jeanne Els se boek As die stroom jou vat: Die raaisel van selfmoord verwys na die vrae waarmee familielede en vriende sit nadat ‘n geliefde selfmoord gepleeg het. Els het hierdie vrae gehad nadat haar pa, toe sy dertien jaar oud was, sy eie lewe geneem het.
Later is depressie ook by haar gediagnoseer en het sy self probeer om haar lewe te beëindig.
“Afgesien van die meelopers en die mense wat agterbly vir wie dit ‘n raaisel is, dink ek dis vir jouself, wat in sekerheid besluit dat jy jou eie lewe gaan neem, tot ‘n mate ook ‘n raaisel. Die lewe is ‘n geskenk en hier kies jy nou die dood, eerder as om daardie geskenk te aanvaar,” het Els in ‘n onderhoud op die KykNET-program Kwêla gesê:
In As die stroom jou vat ondersoek Els die raaisel van selfmoord en gesels sy openhartig met ander bekendes wat probeer selfmoord pleeg het. Luister ook na die potgooi van Els se gesprek oor selfmoord en geloof op die RSG-program Kruis en Dwars:
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by Chris on Aug 4th, 2011
Ná haar ineenstorting, wat Jeanne Else in die boek Ligdans beskryf het, het sy probeer om selfmoord te pleeg en selfs ‘n gesinsmoord oorweeg. Gelukkig kon sy met “terapie, medikasie en genade” leer om met haar depressie saam te leef.
In haar nuwe boek, As die stroom jou vat, ondersoek Els die raaisel van selfmoord en gesels sy met bekendes soos Steve Hofmeyr oor depressie. Sy vertel ook van haar eie poging om haar lewe te beïndig en hoe sy uiteindelik haar lewe kon hervat. “’n Mens hoef nie ’n lyer aan depressie te wees nie, maar ’n vegter,” het Els in ‘n onderhoud aan Zelda Jongbloed gesê:
Jeanne Els het instinktief geweet as sy haar eie biosfeer skep, sal dit emosioneel beter met haar gaan.
Toe skep sy ’n wêreldjie vir twee komeetvissies, Izak en Estelle, in ’n visdammetjie in haar tuin. Een wat sy self gebou het met twee blou skulpvormige plastiekswembadjie-helftes, baie plante, ’n bietjie lig, ’n bietjie skaduwee, ’n klippie om onder te skuil en ’n waterlelie wat jare gegroei het voordat die eerste wondermooie blom verskyn het.
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by Chris on May 31st, 2011
Jeanne Els, skrywer van Ligdans, se nuwe boek, As die stroom jou vat, ondersoek die raaisel van selfmoord:
“Dit is kritiek belangrik om nóú reeds, wanneer ’n mens normaal redeneer, met jou familie en vriende ooreen te kom: Help hou my geharnas teen die afgrond. Hou my dop. Wanneer ek weer in ’n depressie verval help maak seker dat ek betyds professionele hulp kry en daarmee volhou…”
Ná haar pa se selfmoord beloof Jeanne Els haarself dat sy nóóit so iets sal doen nie. Jare later word sy self deur die stroom meegesleur. Sy sluk ’n oordosis voorgeskrewe pille terwyl haar kinders elders in die huis doenig is en haar man Carte Blanche kyk…
In As die stroom jou vat beskryf Jeanne hoe sy, danksy genade, volgehoue terapie en medikasie, haar lewe kon hervat.
Sy ondersoek die raaisel van selfmoord en gesels openhartig met ander bekendes wat probeer selfmoord pleeg het en met gesinslede en vriende wat die selfmoord van ’n geliefde beleef het.
Een van Suid-Afrika se mees gerespekteerde psigiaters deel sy kundigheid en daar is uittreksels uit selfmoordbriewe.
Oor die outeur
Jeanne Els se eerste boek, Ligdans, was ’n topverkoper en het haar landswyd gevestig as motiveringspreker.
Sy is ’n bekende joernalis wat jare lank vir Die Burger en Sarie geskryf het. Jeanne is in die Paarl gebore en het aan die Universiteit van Stellenbosch joernalistiek studeer en ook daar klasgegee. Sy en haar man Dolf, ook bekend in joernalistieke kringe, het twee seuns. Hulle woon in Kaapstad.
Sy lewer tans voltyds motiveringspraatjies en skryf oor selfhelp en persoonlike ontwikkeling.
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by Chris on Apr 21st, 2011
Geldsake is een onderwerp waaroor paartjies dikwels vassit. Om verby die stryery te kom en ‘n punt te bereik waar julle saam aan jul finansiële toekoms werk, is dit volgens Sunél Veldtman, skrywer van Manage Your Money, Live Your Dream baie belangrik om te kommunikeer.
“Die meeste paartjies praat te min oor wat hul drome vir die toekoms is en waarheen hulle oppad is,” sê Veldtman in ‘n potgooi op Moneyweb, waarin sy en Magnus Heystek van Brenthurst Wealth Management vir luisteraars raad gee.
Dit is ook volgens haar belangrik om te weet waarom jou lewensmaat anders oor geld dink as jy. “Party mense word in oorvloed groot en ander in skaarste. Dit alles beïnvloed hoe jy oor geld dink.”
Luister na die potgooi hieronder:
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by Chris on Apr 19th, 2011
In the following two articles, centered around Sunél Veldtman’s Manage your Money, Live your Dream, Maya Fisher-French discusses money matters from the evils of credit cards to differences in the ways women and men are thought to respond to money:
In her book, Manage your Money, Live your Dream, financial adviser and author Sunel Veldtman says that biologically women are hardwired to react differently to money.
Veldtman quotes Dr Louann Brizendine from her book, The Female Brain, in which she says that although we live in the modern urban world, we inhabit bodies built to live in the wild.
“Our stress responses were designed to react to physical danger and life-threatening situations. Now couple that stress response with the modern challenges of juggling the demands of home, kids and work without enough support, and we have a situation in which women can perceive a few unpaid bills as a stress that appears to be life-threatening.
During a conversation with Eunice Sibiya, head of consumer education at FNB, she related a story that made me realise how credit cards, and general easy access to credit, has taken away the sense of achievement we used to get from saving towards a goal.
At the start of her career, Sibiya worked as a teller at a branch where customers would bring her their savings books and ask her to show them how much they had accumulated.
Despite being ordinary workers, their savings were substantial with tens of thousands saved up. Sibiya would speak to them and ask them about how they managed to save and what they were saving for.
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by Chris on Apr 6th, 2011
Sunél Veldtman is the author of Manage Your Money, a book aimed specifically at women who are in need of improving their financial skills and who need to take control of their financial well being.
Personal Finance columnist Maya Fisher-French asks Veldtman why she decided to write a book aimed at women, when finance is a gender-neutral subject. Veldtman says that though finance is gender-neutral, women have specific issues and that society gives women “messages” which are gender specific (like marry a rich husband), and so the book offers a way to navigate these gender-specific angles when it comes to financial planning.
Veldtman says she divided the book into several areas. She focuses on the journey of understanding oneself and what one wants with one’s life. A second area goes into planning – how one gets there, understanding how much money is required for one’s dream. She thinks these issues don’t get enough attention when in financial planning.
Veldtman’s lasting piece of advice to the viewers is to “take control”:
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by Chris on Mar 7th, 2011
Sunél Veldtman has three postgraduate qualifications in finance and a job advising clients how to invest their money – but until a few years ago she paid no attention to her own finances.
Instead, like many other women, she left the financial decision-making to her husband. This led not only to her being unhappy, but also put strain on her relationship. “I found myself in an all-consuming job, with very little time for my kids or myself and no real dreams of my own,” Veldtman writes in her book Manage Your Money, Live Your Dream.
After she embarked on a journey to put her life in order, Veldtman wrote this book, sharing the financial lessons she learned.
“The books covers every aspect of managing your money, saving and investing, from the most basic principles to the more complex investments,” Veldtman said at the media launch for the book at Den Anker restaurant, V&A Waterfront, Cape Town.
The book was originally written with women in mind, as Veldtman realised that many women are in the same position that she was, ignoring their finances. And indeed some of the issues raised in Manage Your Money, Live Your Dream are of special interest to women, such as the section on maternity benefits. However, the basic principles to gaining financial freedom are the same for men and women, and both will find the book beneficial.
“In fact,” Veldtman said, “More men seemed to buy the book at the Johannesburg launch… but that could also be because women tend not to make the financial decisions!”
Veldtman also tried to write for readers from all possible income brackets, as she wanted to make her financial advice available to everyone.
She made this guide as easy and practical as possible, with case studies, worksheets, questionnaires, and stories from her own life.
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by Chris on Feb 1st, 2011
Sunél Veldtman had the degrees and certificates. She was an investment advisor with an Honours degree in Economics. Yet, in her household, she didn’t manage her own money…
If someone like Sunél had difficulty taking charge of her money, imagine how hard it is for other women, brought up to believe that nice girls don’t talk about money.
It took a personal crisis before Sunél took her financial future in hand, clarified her values and made sensible changes. In this book she shows us how we can do the same.
In Manage Your Money, Live Your Dream Sunél shows ordinary women how to start out on a journey of self-fulfillment. Her practical guide is written for normal, “finance-illiterate” women. Overcome your fear, empower yourself with knowledge and make wise and informed choices that suit your personality and build on your values.
In this book, Sunél shows not only how to save, but also how to invest, in simple, clear languages with lots of examples. Her message is: Know who you are and what makes you happy. Then go for it, using the best information available.
About the Author
Sunél Veldtman is a director of BJM Private Clients and started a series of seminars called “A Feminine Touch on Finance”. She has an Honours degree in Economics, is a chartered financial analyst and certified financial planner, and an experienced bond and equity trader.
She lives in Dunkeld in Johannesburg with her husband and three children.
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